I Miss You- Poem

I miss you 
And I really don't even know you 
My spirit wants to vibe 
And flow with you 
Free style together 
And go toe to toe with you 
Travel to a distant land 
And cuddle with you 
I just want to hold you 
Our bodies come together 
And create a mold of you
Singing Back to life 
Soul II Soul with you 
Bump and Grind 
R. Kelly with you 
Ain't no mountain high 
Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell with you 
I want to fly with you 
Giggle and act shy with you 
Laugh a thousand laughs with you 
Sit on the porch and.... reminisce 
But, I guess I'm infatuated 
Elated 
Vastly gaited 
Emotions precipitated 
So let me slow it down and say... 
Hello... 
How's your day... 
You good... 
Good bye

How Do You Rank in Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?

While partaking in my regular Twitter activities today, I saw a post by Burton Brown Sr. regarding emotional intelligence. I just had to review the information because of a past discussion about emotional intelligence. A few years ago, a classmate of mine in my masters program did a review on emotional intelligence. It was very interesting to learn about and hear others discuss it. 

My Score from About.com: Psychology What's Your EQ?
Emotional Intelligence Test
How Did You Score? Your results indicate a high score on emotional intelligence. What Does Your Score Mean? People who score high on emotional intelligence tend to be skilled at interpreting, understanding, and acting upon emotions. They are adept at dealing with social or emotional conflicts, expressing their feelings, and dealing with emotional situations. It's important to remember that no matter how good your score is, there is always room to improve your emotional intelligence. Consider areas where you are not as strong and think of ways that you can learn and grow. Take stock of your strong points and find ways to continue to develop and apply these skills. My Thoughts As you can see above, I scored pretty high on emotional intelligence. As a supervisor, I think it is very important for me to have a high level of emotional intelligence to understand what is affecting my staff's work. My high level of emotional intelligence could be the very reason why I often feel like the Dr. Phil of my office and within my social settings. A lot of people generally come to me about questions, problems, and other matters they may need assistance with completing. In reviewing one of Mr. Burton's last posts today "Please don't get me wrong all human emotion has its place, but it must not interfere with taking the appropriate action to get things done." I do agree with it. I also believe that those who high levels emotional intelligence should be equipped with the ability to redirect others who may need assistance, guidance, or help with certain emotional details. Thank you for posting this information Mr. Brown.

Is Being the Youngest of the Family Getting in the Way of How People Perceive You?

If I had the opportunity of gaining a dollar every time someone stated, “I can’t stand the youngest of the family,” I would probably be paid nothing less than $1,000.  As an adolescent, I definitely heard that statement more than I could count.  The difference between now and then is that now I am aware that emotions tend to play an important role in these comments, which makes you think that there has to be some truth to the matter.  In order for us to address this concern, we have to be open and honest with ourselves and each other.  I want you to take the next few moments and ask yourself these questions: Am I the youngest of the family or do I have a younger sibling?  Am I or my sibling treated a certain way by my family?  Is there a difference in treatment of my siblings and myself?  After you have contemplated those questions for a while, I want you to think about your answers as we progress through this article.

Recently, I was told by a co-worker that she could not believe that I was the youngest of my siblings.  She told me that I did not act as a typical younger sibling.  I immediately thought “people’s opinions of  the younger sibling must be universal.  Why is this?  And what was the particular way that younger siblings acted?”  I ultimately knew the answers to my own questions because I had dealt with them earlier on in life. 

You have to know that being the youngest of the family is not an easy job because people do perceive the youngest to act in a certain manner.  Honestly, it’s not like “The baby of the family” wakes up each morning and say “I’m going to act in a manner to distinguish myself as the younger sibling of the family.”  Sometimes our actions are attention seeking.  We were the last of mom and dad’s kids, so we sometimes seek attention because we were use to having the spotlight.  It can also be said that some of us had no immediate responsibilities to take care of, such as taking care of a younger sibling, being the bigger brother or sister, or anything else that came with protecting someone we loved.  While older brothers and sisters learned this incredible skill early on, younger siblings had to find other ways to gain the skill. 

At times, our understanding of the statement “The world doesn’t revolve around you,” does not really hit home until we are older adults.  This is sad, but often true.  Take reality star, Tamar Braxton for example.  She is the youngest of six children born to Evelyn Braxton and Michael Braxton, Sr.  As the show displays, Tamar can be a little domineering at times.  In previous episodes, her personality rubbed her sisters the wrong way because of her comments and actions.  Although some of Tamar’s actions and comments were irrational, I could definitely relate to her.  I could relate to her emotionality, her feeling of having to always defend herself from her older siblings, and being misunderstood.  See, previously I was the same way.  I remember in my early twenties, I often felt misunderstood.  I had sisters, but no one to talk to.  A mouth, but no one to hear me.  A purpose, but no one to understand me.  I felt as though I was all alone with no one to take up for me when accusations were made against me.  Who would stand by me and show me that it would be ok?  Me, that’s who! 

Finally in my late twenties, I started to live for myself and no one else.  This is when many doors opened up to me in the form of relationships, friendships, and a feeling inside of me that it was ok to be me.  I felt more comfortable in myself, doubted myself less, and knew where I was going.  I honestly believe that when I found comfort in myself, others started to see the same comfort that radiated inside of me.  It was like my hands had been unbound, feet unshackled, and mind liberated.  See, I was a hostage within my own home because like my co-worker who believed the youngest sibling acted in a particular way, I believed I was treated in a particular way.  That notion is what kept me from progressing toward my purpose.  I can say that I longer feel that way because I do not want to be in the business of making thoughts reality.  I conclude by saying that as a child, I was spoiled and a bit selfish.  Do you think if I was presented with the opportunity to change who I was as a child, I would do it?  Not at all!  I truly believe that we all go through certain things in life because we are being prepared to embark upon like experiences.  My knowledge of my past choices and activities could very well help shape someone else’s life.  While I am unable to change my sisters’ previous thoughts about me, I am able to change their future thoughts.  We definitely have much better relationships than when I was younger, which I attribute to the shift in understanding each other as we grew up and became women.  We now have experienced life a little bit more and have something to share with each other.  I must say that I love these women!

~ I choose the liberated and often conscious mind

Act Like a Lady!

Who remembers this poem from my second book, Poetic Outlets?  My facebook friends may also remember this poem from one of my notes a few years ago.  Well, I thought it was only right to bring it back out since the Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man Movie came out.  Enjoy the poem and make sure you go and see the movie.  It is hilarious!

Act Like a Lady

You tell me to...

Walk like a lady

Talk like a lady

Take my legs and cross like a lady

Eat like a lady

Sleep like a lady

Make a poem to be like a lady

But your words have focused on my visual commitments

to exemplify I’m a woman

You tell me to be a woman

but when my emotions and tenderness show I’m a woman

You ignore the very thing that makes my heart bleed

 You ignore my voice of expression

Because my emotions are something you don’t need

You make me feel as though I have exaggerated the feelings I carry deep inside

But maybe you have underestimated the feelings you try to hide

Why can’t you make up your mind?

Because if I don’t show these feelings

Then I’m considered heartless

A useless human being who sits dazed by this world and its

TO BE A WOMAN COMMANDMENTS

 If you knew how to be a woman,

Then why are you still amazed at the acts of women these days?

I can’t put women into a category because women aren’t all the same

I mean

We all are considered women

But we’re not all the same

We don’t dress the same

Speak the same

Enter love or friendships the same

We don’t cook the same

Smell the same

“BETCHA BY GOLLY WOW”

We’re not the same

 So next time you start your proclamation with

“Why do women...”

You may want to rephrase your statement

To “why do women I date, come in contact with, or like

Do these certain things?”