When Forever Ends Tomorrow

Sometimes forever ends tomorrow
Leaving no permanent casualties
Only hurt feelings
And temporary states of mind
Forever is sometimes spoken
As to mean until the end of time
Or the end of our life time
We as people know
That our forever is sometimes overshadowed
By beautiful spoken soliloquies
With no partakers of this relational truce
Our forever ends unequivocally
Giving rise to a whole new meaning of forever
I say
Live forever with as much enthusiasm as possible
Because forever could one day
Be true to its inception

Relationships 101

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By no means are relationships easy. There can be many changes with relationships, such as: Communication, time, sharing, money, and much more. All relationships are different. Can you remember the first and last person you were in a relationship with? I want you to think about what went well in each relationship and what did not go so well. If you are currently in a relationship, I want you to compare and contrast your current relationship with your last relationship. We are continuously growing and developing our relationships with each other, each day. Gaps in between relationships allow us to analyze the role we played in the break up or make up of the relationship.

To be honest, some people jump head first into a relationship not always evaluating the ramifications of certain actions. Jumping head first can be ok as long as the other person you are jumping for is also jumping. People are not always on the same wave length when it comes to relationships unless a discussion takes place regarding what is expected. At times people’s expectations of the relationship can lead to total chaos because of expecting too much or expecting too little. What I suggest to you is that you talk with your significant other about what is expected so you know what and what not to expect.

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Make sure you are making fun a priority with your significant other. Relationships are about having fun, living in the moment, and experiencing new things. You have to make sure your mind is open to receive new information and also give information. In my eyes, the learning part is always the best part of the relationship because it’s like being blind and feeling your way around the world until things start making sense. Continue making sense of things by having fun.

Giving your all is good, but make sure you are not the only one doing it. When I think about giving and relationships, I think about couples implementing the give-and-take method rather than the take-and-take or give-and-give method. People have to feel as though they are a valuable part of the relationship and not that the relationship is built on what someone else can do for a person or what a person can do for another person. They want to have the same amount of control in the relationship because it is about two people, not just one person.

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A good question you have to ask yourself is, are you willing to do things for your significant other that you are not willing to do for yourself? You should ask yourself this question before it even becomes a topic and know the answer because believe me, you will be faced with this issue. I remember when I was in school to get my masters, I was dating this young man who I really cared for. I truly loved him and would do (Almost) anything to make sure he was happy. Well, everything except devalue my character, get into financial ruin, or do anything cruel and demeaning. One night, my significant other was suffering from a toothache. Me being the person that I was, stayed up all night rubbing the side of his face to make sure he felt better. The interesting part about this situation was when I needed something such as a back rub from working three jobs or just a nice relaxing bath ran, my significant other refused to assist me. “Ain’t that about nothing.” Where are people at when you really need them? His actions allowed me to start taking a thorough evaluation of the situation and start putting my needs sometimes before other people's. Of course there are going to be situations in which you will have to put another person first; however if people have yet to put you first in your relationship, why should you continue to put them first? 

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My last tidbit of information is regarding relationships and money. Most of us know that money can be the very reason why people fight and break up. My motto is “I am not willing to do something for someone else that I would not very well willing to do for myself.” This is in regards to taking out a financial loan, co-signing for a car, or any other unruly thing that a person may ask you to do. I am all for empowering others to make good financial decisions to increase their profit and know exactly where their money is going. This could be through the use of a budget, financial consultant, and other methods to increase a person’s financial literacy. People should be open to assisting others with a $50 or $100 loan every now and then; however when it comes to depleting your emergency fund or placing you in a situation that could have a negative impact on your finances, you may want to think twice. It’s definitely ok to help others. You just have to make sure you are in a position to help others because you may actually be the person who needs assistance. To be quite honest, I did not always think this way. I was the one who would go to a check cashing place to take out a loan for others. Well, that was until one day I took out the loan and the person did not pay me back when he was supposed to do so. I was already having financial issues of my own, so I could not pay the loan back myself. His $100 loan cost me more than he actually paid me back for the loan. When he did repay me, I was just so happy to receive the money back that I did not ask for any additional money for the charges of not returning the loan back on time. From that point on I developed the lovely motto that you see above. It was only right for me to protect myself because if I did not protect myself then who would?

~Remember to live life for yourself and not through the eyes of other people. Your love will blossom, endure, and transform.  

Live in Forever

Let's live in "Forever" today without the worries of "What if tomorrows." If forever ends tomorrow then we would have lived with no regrets today.

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Relationships: Can You Sustain a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex?

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When you think about relationships, do you think of a life filled with Exs? If you are some people then this answer is yes, but some people do not believe that you can carry a healthy relationship with your ex, especially if you broke up due to detrimental factors.

My answer regarding carrying on a relationship with an ex  is that it can be done; however you have to be very honest with the current person you are in relationship with so no one gets hurt. When I talk about hurt, I am not just talking about hurt emotional, but physically too. If your previous relationship was a very violent one where you had to get a restraining order against the person, it is only fair that you are up front with the current person you are in a relationship with so he or she will have a choice in the matter whether or not to stay with you. What some people fail to realize is that harmful situations tend to happen when the other person is hiding information from the other person, secretly carrying on a current relationship with their ex, or misrepresenting information that could harm someone.

In my current findings, I have found that some people tend to complain heavily about their ex when they are still emotionally attached to the person. It is like they have yet to move away from the hurt that the person caused them in the past that they bring that same emotion into their future relationships. Although these people complain about their exs, they will follow them on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and other social media websites. So in reality, it's like their mouth speaks false hope because their actions are not aligning with what they are saying.

I have an acquaintance who told me a couple of years ago that her ex was very violent, irresponsible, and just detrimental to the health of their relationship. The individual was so violent that my friend had to get a restraining order against him. The unbelievable part regarding my friend was that she sustained a relationship with her ex by talking to him on the telephone, following him on Instagram, Facebook, and other websites.

I honestly do not understand the reason for her to maintain such a relationship that she still considers detrimental to her health, especially when she is currently involved with someone else. Either she is in denial of still loving this person or maybe she has exaggerated the truth just a wee bit. I am definitely not telling her who she can and cannot associate herself with, I just don't want innocent people to get hurt because of her current choices. The fact of the matter is that my acquaintance still cares about this individual the way she keeps discussing the person and giving the person all her energy. My acquaintance needs to be true to herself. If she still wants to be with the individual, just be open, honest, and let your current boyfriend know about the situation. It is only fair to him so he will know where he stands.

~Relationships are about honestly, not the misrepresentation of the truth. Start living in your truth.

What People Are Saying about Dead Wrong

Snake Eyes

I'd rather be solo
Then in like of:

A playa playa
A liar
A person who tries to intellectually deceive me with his romantic words, snake eyes, and calloused tongues.

Here he
Here he
All ye deceptors
Deceptacons
Misrepresented substitutes

Let your lies wallow
In the bellies of the unjust

Let your insensitivenes
Guide you to battered war zones

Let your secret
Plague the place that it lies

I
Woman of substance
Love not deceptors

Dead Wrong

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Guess What's Back in a Different Form?

Well guys, Dead Wrong is finally on ebook. This was the first book I published in 2010. The book so popular that I had sold out of most of my physical copies within two to three months. The book has done extremely well since I added it to ebook. A lot of ebook copies have been obtained within the last few days of me releasing the book on Amazon. Lets continue to make Dead Wrong popular by telling your friends about it, purchasing copies for family, and helping to bring this book to the theaters. I definitely think this would be a great movie. I am not just saying this because I am the author of this book. I am saying this because I truly believe that it could work. Meagan Good could play the lead character, seeing that they resemble each other.

About Dead Wrong:

Dead Wrong is about a young woman name Tasha Marie Smith. Tasha is an African-American woman from Cincinnati, Ohio. She moved to Columbus, Ohio as a teenager with her parents. Ms. Smith is organized, goal oriented, and self-reliant. She has a bachelor's degree and is working on her master's. Life couldn't get any better than this. 

Tasha is a smart woman because she makes goals for her life that are attainable. They are attainable because she doesn't have a family to take care of and her immediate family is willing to help her. Well, it was a good life. That was until her life took a 180 degree turn down the wrong direction. It was all because of a man named Jacob. 

Jacob seemed to be everything she yearned for; educated, well-groomed, confident, financially set, didn't have any kids, and he was single. Or was he? What more did she need? He was everything she thought she needed. He exemplified success and she wouldn't stop until she achieved success also. What she didn't know was that sometimes success comes with a high price and his price was everlasting. Was Tasha willing to pay the price of success? 

Whatever she decided, Jacob's love would leave her body limp with frustration, shock, betrayal, and deceit. Tasha Marie Smith was dead wrong, or that was what she was told. She will soon admit her wrongness or she will feel the burdens of it.

Essence Magazine's Tribute to Maya Angelou Edition

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