Verdict: Guilty, "Help! I Need Love", Was Just What The World Needed

The time leading up to and after the premier of Help! I Need Love was supercharged and a classic display of a community coming together to show the world what it really needed; Love. People of all different races, genders, and socioeconomic statues came together because it was evident that they felt something was missing in their lives. Whether the absence was love, an enjoyable show, or a display of realism, the internet went wild. The show was trending on Twitter as number three. People showed their love and support for the program on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and other places. Although there are current reality shows that address love and helping people find love, this show seemed to represent love at its truest form.

The portions about the show that I really loved were Paul's tips on flirting, the makeover, and him saying "Stay laser focused on the here and now." I also loved how Paul discussed potential things the woman looking for love should consider changing because it had made some of her dates uncomfortable. I am sure we all can relate to being our genuine selves and not realizing we were offending others with our comments or actions. Sometimes people do not realize those certain things about themselves until others bring it to light.

Kudos to Paul for bringing us into his world of matchmaking and what it takes to start and continue to process of finding love.

Check out tweets, videos, and photos below of people enjoying the show. Feel free to leave comments on your thoughts about the show. 

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The National Black Book Festival Salutes...

He said...

He said he loves me
And I asked him
do you love me or are you in love me?
Because there's a difference
He said... In
Because my mind stays on you all day
And like McDonalds you could have it your way
I put you before me because I see me in you
Our hearts became one
But use to be two
Our spirits attached at the word go
Your body is the only thing that can feel my flow
A day without you is like a day with no air
Finding you years ago was something truly rare
My mind believed the words streaming from his lips
At the sweet kisses attached to my soul
And the way he took his sips
This question
deliberation
situation
revealed truth

Jacob: In the Mind of a Mad Man

Have you ever went deep inside the mind of a mad man? Jacob Andrews shows you the real meaning of crazy with only one thing to blame; love. For all those who want to know what happened after Dead Wrong or want to witnesses love at its rarest form. Book releases on e-book this month. Book design by SouloTheory.#Jacob #Book #Ebook #Love #Crazy #Thriller

What People Are Saying about Dead Wrong

Still In Exile

I did not choose him and he did not choose me

Our spirits chose each other

Long was the separation

of missing one another

Still in exile

Of full connectivity

But still giving my all

Because he gets the best of me

Long be no more

for soon shall get here at last

To him I give

This love I cast

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Have you read my book of poetry titled "Poetic Outlets?" This book is about love, life, relationships and the things that keep us emotionally engaged with each other. Come be emotionally engaged with me.

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Poetic Outlets

Poetic Outlets is a book of poetry that discusses depression, society, love, and attributes of a woman. It can honestly be said that this book has a bit of everything in it that draws you deeper and deeper into the author's thought process.

My Poetic Soul Unleashed

My Poetic Soul Unleashed is an extension of Poetic Outlets and ­the ­journey taken by Melica to reveal what lies underneath. In ­revealing what lies underneath, one has to be aware of the body, its functions, and what makes people feel the way that they do. My Poetic Soul Unleashed is about the immediate ­reactions to situations and the long deliberation of relations. It's also about mind ­boggling questions and the statements that keep you guessing. It's life and ­allowing ­Melica to ­unleash her soul in the form of poetic words on paper. So many times in life, people tend to see the things that are on the surface without ­digging ­beneath the exterior and revealing a diamond in the rough. It's time to stop recovering items from the surface and start digging for more than the obvious. Start digging for the truth.

A Piece of Me

You took something from me

That I want back

You took a piece of me

My love, you hijacked

I feel like Passenger 57

On a flight to a place unknown

But unlike Passenger 57

This trip I, forever long

I long for our conversation

The way you smile and grin

I long for your spirit

That makes life a sure win

Your soul is imprinted on mine

As my soul is on your’s

All I can do is sit back, relax

And let these feelings pour

Lava Filled Capsule

So just under an hour ago, I sat here thinking about love. See love has always been here, but not always reciprocated at its highest ability by those I dated or those I cared for. In the past, I was always seen as the one who recognized my love for another first, whether it was a relationship or a friendship. You can say that this is also a present concern; however I will not say concern because I was made this way for a reason. I was made to love. Built to share my true feelings for those around. Placed on this planet to radiate the love in my bones that is bound to seep through my lips and to attach to the earlobe of the one I love. So friends, family, and loved ones, this is my, "Lava Filled Capsule."

Passion and love burns inside of me

For a love and caress that is only known by me

Recognize it

To a T

If I must

Loyal

Compassionate

With a sweet hint of trust

My body aches

For the one who is like I

Emotions on the table

And nose open wide

These emotions hold tight

To this lava filled capsule

This is not a test

A public service announcement

But something that is factual

I say with great emotion

My heart has been set for devotion

This path I will not stray

Because love will be here

Any day 

Persnickety

Today while sitting in the café area of a well-known grocery store, I overheard two women talking. One woman stated, “Right now I am single and I am enjoying myself. There’s been a lot of spiritual growth and getting to know myself lately.” I could not concur with her more. I agree with her because I truly believe that before you can be in a relationship with anyone, you have to understand your wants, needs, and desires. The best way to understand yourself is by being by yourself for an extended amount of time.

In 2006, I entered into a two year relationship. My prior relationship record was not good because I could not seem to make it past the three month relationship mark. I was definitely going to give this relationship a chance because I had to make sure it could be done. Well, by the third month, I was ready to throw in the towel. This guy was too needy and seemed to have a continuous altering mood; he needed me to walk him through things I considered simple, perform those simple tasks for him and want for the relationship seemed to change depending on if he was working or laid off. I found myself being concerned with this individual more than I was concerned for my own well-being. Within those two years, I had broken up with him at least three times and had considered breaking up with him on a constant basis. What always brought us back together was the fact that I felt bad for him, when I really should have just considered my feelings in the relationship. The feelings that I held for this individual were definitely not being reciprocated; I was often the one providing for us, even when he had a job and I moved forward in the relationship with the perception that the word team included both of us.

My two year relationship made me take a few steps back, so I could re-evaluate the situation. I asked myself a few questions: What was the relationship doing for me? Was the relationship helping me grow? Could I see myself with this individual in the future? Was our relationship built on a foundation of trust and loyalty? And what was I getting out of the relationship? After answering no or nothing to practically all of those questions, I knew it was time for me to get to know myself a bit more and determine my likes and dislikes. I ended my two years of blissful misery and started my four year journey toward getting to know myself. It was such an experience because I started to identify things I liked in myself and things I wanted in a mate. While many of my friends and family found me to be picky, I thought to myself, “Why not? Why not be picky?” I think I definitely deserved to be picky, especially where I was headed. I needed someone that could accompany me on my journey and who could easily fit into my life without all the complications that I was accustomed to. I wanted to be able to have an in depth conversation with that person and be able to talk about life, love, and even politics. I wanted the information he possessed to be fact-based and not emotional-based. I wanted his words to be true and I did not have to determine if he was telling a lie. Is that too much to ask for?

~I'm worth the time it takes to make good choices. Are you?

What a Girl Wants: What a Girl Needs!

Understanding the female perspective is really not as hard as some have deemed it to be.  Listening to her, as she listens to you, is the key componet to understanding her.  Listening entails allowing her time to talk, rephrasing what was stated, making eye contact, and showing some sign of understanding to the discussion.  Now, there are going to be times times that you don't understand what she is talking about.  This is when you should tell her that you don't understand.  I know she will appreciate your honesty.  Below, I will review some things that women want and what they need.  Please note that not all women want the same things.  This list was compiled from my conversations with men and women over the past three years.

Honesty is one of the ingredients for any successful relationship, friendship, partnership, or any other type of communicative effort.  It makes the person feel valued and worthy of such a relationship.  In the past, some male acquaintances have told me in open dialogue that "women cannot handle the truth."  Well, I'm here to say that women can handle the truth because the truth is much better than a lie.  The truth may hurt in the beginning, but a lie will hurt even worse.  So if you have something you need to get off of your chest, tell her.

Entering and maintaining relationships with someone who is goal-oriented and attempts their goals is a must.   Recently, I was among a group of male friends who have always been upfront with me about their feelings and the differences between men and women.  The group of men, who were high school and/or college educated, agreed to the same thing; women want more for their lives than men and that men are content with their current lives.  This statement seemed to be true because a friend of mine recently disclosed information to me about wanting her boyfriend to be more goal-oriented and want more for his life.  I honestly believe that wanting more out of your life really depends on the person because I have been around men that have wanted more out of their lives than some women did.  If the woman finds the scenario above to be true in her case, she and her significant should discuss if the relationship is worth pursuing.  The relationship may work for some; however not work for others.

Have you ever been in love with someone and the feelings just were not reciprocated?  I am sure a number of us have felt this way either this month, last month, or the last couple of years ago.  In my evaluations and discussions with men and women, I have noticed that women tend to fall for a guy in the beginning of a relationship.  She sometimes gives her all in the beginning because anything less would be uncanny.  In comparison with women, men tend to take longer to divulge his feelings to a women.  In this type of situation, I say that each individual has to give a little.  The man may tell the women to be patient; however he too should learn how to disclose some of his feelings earlier on, so it is a win-win situation.   

Women need to be in a relationship with no double standards.  How many of you men can honestly say that you did not want your woman hanging around male friends; however it was ok for you to hang around female friends?  Do you honestly think that was fair?  Some of my male friends told me that they like it that way because they know how men are and some women are naive.  Could the same be said for women and could some men be naive?  I would say the same goes for both men and women.  We are all tempted by some of the same things and react in a similar way.  A good dose of trust is needed in this situation.

The last thing that women need is time to focus on her.  Women like to be pampered, spoiled, and thought highly of.  Why not take her on an all expense paid trip to Montego Bay?  Ok, I may be pushing the enevelop a bit, but if you can afford it, why not?  If you can't, then take her out to dinner and to a movie.  Let her relax without having to pick up the tab.  Let her have quiet time for her thoughts and be able to focus solely on herself.  Take her shopping or to one of her favorite places.  You will know exactly where to take her because you have invested enough time in her to know these things.

Men and Women: We Need Each Other

The truth to living a comfortable life is that men and women need each other.  We need each other for our physical and mental capabilities.  We need that emotional factor that pulls us into each other’s spirit.  We need the security that we provide each other.  We need love reciprocated at a monogamous level.  We need the discussion aspect of the relationship that makes us well rounded and feel appreciated.  Now the listening part of the relationship can be tricky because the fact of the matter is that we don’t always listen to each other.  Honestly, I can be accused of not listening to a significant other.  It was nothing he or I had done; it was just that we sometimes needed time to ourselves to process various things in our lives in order to be there for each other.  We wanted to be there for each other, so we listened; although our minds were somewhere else. 

Has anyone heard the comment before, “Men and women can be independent and don’t need to be loved?”  Well, I’m here to say that the statement is not true.  In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Theory, he reveals a level of needing to be loved.  While the love of family and friends is great, there is nothing that can compare to loving and being loved by a significant other; Being loved by a person that truly understands you and by someone who can read you inside out.  Love of family and friends cannot replace the love of a significant other who is going to cuddle with you at night when you need security or the warmth of another body.  It also will not replace the truthfulness of your significant other stating that you gained a little weight, but he likes it on you.

Now, I’m definitely not telling you to go out and get into a relationship with just anyone because you still need to make a well-informed decision when dating.  I am just telling you to acknowledge that each gender plays a specific role in each other’s life.  We need to respect each other, stop focusing on the other gender’s negative traits, and love each other for who they are and will be.   

~We need each other

He Is...

Sometimes in life

I feel trapped in a place

Where society has yet to uncover

Trampling over my spirit

Which shines so bright

Although dark clouds have tried to overshadow

My sunny days

Sitting in the place of solitude

Waiting for the spirit of a like incumbent

Bringing forth the dreams of a fruitful meeting

And the anticipation of heavily enriched knowledge

That travels out of his lips

And attaches to my psyche

Watching his passionate soul

Continue to push through the heartache and pain

Because he’s set on making it to the mountaintop

By trying

And giving life his all

Courage is what he pushes forward

While expelling honesty from his body

And admirably wearing the badge of commitment

On his chest

He knows his past

Lives in his present

While continuously planning for the future

Proud of his heritage

And stays true to heart

He is love!

Poetic Outlets and Dead Wrong

Get your very own copies of Poetic Outlets and Dead Wrong today.  Poetic Outlets, will take you on an emotional rollercoster and poetically enter your spirit, which will definitely release emotions that have longed to be set free. You will hear and feel the presence of my soul, as I take you on a journey to unwavering passion and commitment.  Dead Wrong is about a young lady who falls in love for all the wrong reasons. She will soon come to grips with her decision of love with the threat of death being held over her head for it. The main character fantasizes about loves, socializes with friends, and flirts with death.

Poetic Outlets is also available on Kindle!

Poetic Outlets Sold at The Book Loft of German Village

Hello everyone. I have great news for those individuals that would like to purchase a copy of Poetic Outlets. Books are now sold at The Book Loft of German Village in Columbus, Ohio. You will truly be amazed in entering The Book Loft because there are books everywhere. It is like going through a maze of books and trying to find your way out; however stopping along the journey to admire or pick up a book of your liking. In visiting the The Book Loft, make sure you take enough money to buy a couple of books because I assure you that you will not just leave with one book.

Poetic Outlets is a book of poetry that shows my transition in writing from when I first started to my current writing style. The book will allow you to experience and release all types of emotions, as issues of love, depression, society, and attributes of a woman are discussed. I wrote Poetic Outlets because I love talking about real life situations that engage the reader, while pulling them ­emotionally into the subject matter. I want ­readers to ­experience the extent of each word on the page and be able to identify with that ­feeling. People have a right to read material that encourages them and ­provides insight to ­do­mestic matters.

So let me take you on a journey into my world by reading my book; Poetic Outlets. You will be glad you did.

Love was Supposed to be Everlasting

Love was Supposed to be Everlasting
The Male and Female Interpretation of Love

This work of art is dedicated to individuals who have been,are, or want to be in love. Open your heart to new experiences. Cherish what you have at this moment and open your mind to break the barriers that are hindering you from loving another.

Special Thanks to those who made this work of art possible: Kareem, Lionel, Victoria, Branden, Shenita, Caressa, and others involved in this discussion.


Ch. 1

What is Love?

Love was supposed to be everlasting. Love was supposed to stand the test of time. It was supposed to wrap it self around me and protect me. It was supposed to provide for me, support, take care of, and most of all love me. Love was supposed to show me a different side of the world that I had never seen. I have come to the conclusion that love is not always how you want it to be. I wanted love to listen to me and not be jealous or dictate. I wanted love to only view my beautifulness and not that of others. I wanted love to be considerate and not insensitive. Love was everything that made me feel insecure. It made me sensitive. It made me lose myself in it, for I did not know how to adjust to it.

Love made me think and feel in a way that I thought was impossible, for I was a woman of great strength and inspiration. I was confident. I was a woman who knew what she wanted in life and knew how to get it. Love did everything in its power to make me feel insecure because love itself was insecure. It beat me up and made me feel devalued. It was funny how love could make me feel unappreciated because love did not appreciate itself.

-True Meaning of Love
Love means safety, unity, and caring. Safety is a sense of security. It is a feeling of support. A feeling that you are protected from anything that is bad. Unity is a sense of oneness. Most of the time, it knows exactly how a loved one is feeling and tries whatever it can to keep the feelings happy. Love is caring. It thinks before it react or make decisions.

It is non-judgmental. It listens. It evaluates. It identifies the good things as well as the bad. It will not discourage you or make you feel less of a man or woman.
Love is knowledge. It is the growth and development of the mind and soul. It unites two bodies to be one mind, one soul. It accepts the responsibility of educating those who may not know what love should be. Love is not selfish. There is no I in love. It takes 2 bodies, 2 minds, and makes one connection. It is considerate about others time, for it knows life is short. It does not put the entire burden of affairs on one individual, but shares the responsibility. Love radiates affectionate waves that are felt and seen by those it comes into contact. Love does not cover itself up and hide or sink into its seat. It does not wonder what others think about it. Love has an aura of self assurance. It knows and shows the meaning of true love with each and every person it meets. Confidence is what love is because it knows what it is, what it has, and what it could be.


Chapter 1
Chapters 2-13 coming soon