Monday, December 12, 2011

Happiness Should Never Come at the Expense of Other People

When dealing with some people, it can be like talking to a wall. You have to position yourself to “knock down that wall,”as my sorors would say. Success is not going to be easy. On many occasions, you will have to deal with negative attitudes and influences. Just tell yourself, “I am better than the negativity that is being shackled around my ankles. I will not be subdued to these experiences and consequences of them. I will be more than the negative attitude of others.”

Negative attitudes can be disturbing; especially if they are due to the person not liking the positivity and glow that you exude. Some people will try and transfer their negative energy to you by diminishing your character. This will come in the form of nasty stares, verbal and physical attacks, complaining, and/or talking about others. This may be the only way they know how to be happy; however do not give in to it. Happiness should never come at the expense of others.

The following five steps will assist you with riding the negativity from your life:

1. Learn how to use negative and positive energy to benefit you. It will be hard at first; however it becomes constant with experience.

2. Find ways to take yourself away from negative environments. People may think you are being distant; however learning to deal with your emotions is more important than the views forced on you by others.

3. Cut those ties that try to drain the life from out of you. There’s nothing like those who see the positivity that’s occurring in your life and try to latch on. It’s ok to provide them with encouragement; however when encouragement turns into you doing more than they are willing to do, it’s time for a change. Let them go through their own experiences because not everyone was meant to walk the same path.

4. Network with supportive people who are willing to listen to you. In life, we all have at least one person who will listen without judging, hear without speaking, and see without assuming. These people are great to talk with because they allow you to hear your own questions and possibly answer them with the information you provided to them.

5. Knowing yourself is the last step. Spend time with yourself to understand your likes, dislikes, things you consider negative, and things you consider positive. Sometimes people will present you with strategies to rid yourself of certain situations; however if you lack understanding of yourself, you will not able to know whether or not the strategy works for you. As stated early, not everyone was meant to walk the same path. Knowing yourself would give you a clear understanding of your path and whether or not the walk was meant to be taken.

I hope these strategies assist you in your journey of riding the negativity from your life. To be perfectly honest, I still use these strategies to make my life less stressful and more plentiful. Now, it’s your turn to practice some of these strategies and see how life, minus negativity can be.

~Enjoy!

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